I do not understand: Love today.

The progress made when it comes to technology and social media is undeniably significant. We are able to communicate with people from all over the world. We are able to work from anywhere in the world. We are able to fly. We can see anything from anywhere. It's magnificent the amount of growth we have made as a people. Although the flaw of humanity ruins something good, once again. Greed. Why must we take something helpful and make it harmful? We continuously are searching for the next thing. Aside from the positives that come along, the negatives continue to grow. One of the biggest hurdles comes to matters of love.Today it is as if we force relationships. All of the stigmas surrounding how we should love distract us from being genuine. Does technology try to play fate? Are we forcing relationships? 

My grandparents met in middle school. They fell in love just to be moved away from one another. Desperate to meet again with no form of communication they moved on. A few years later they move back to the same state rekindling their relationship never to part again. People want to love. They want to be loved. People chose to search the internet for their “love” rather than trusting the universe, or fate to find it for us. All the dming , dating apps , stalking ,and tracking. It gets to be a little absurd. Imagine finding the one you are meant for with a story to tell.Imagine a love without worrying who should text first. No more categorizing people for typing too many words. Oh to await someone's return, you learn of their day after all the hours of hard work. Today you know every second on snapchat or facetime. Often you may feel like there is nothing to talk about at the end of the day. If you lived for yourself things would come easier to you that way. Now technology is social media (to an extent) We live through the voices of people we do not know. Expectations for how our future love should behave or treat us is set up by some influencer who gets paid to give bad advice. Influencers are not therapists and the illusion is in the name. “Influencer” influencing the minds, morals, concepts, and thoughts of people today. While the intention may be pure the results are not always so. It is almost worse when the posts are positives because then it's easier to conform. I once had a boyfriend who told me something I never forgot. He said something that I wasn't a fan of, nothing bad, although a  little corny to my personal liking. So I asked why he did it, he then explained that he saw I liked a post on twitter and so he assumed that is how he should speak to me. This goes to show that our behavioral traits are now stemming from a box of technology that has applications. We cannot forget apps are physically designed to trance us in. Astonishing. 

I say we live for us. The true kings and queens of today are us as individuals. Why search and cry for a love that may be forced. We do not need such pressures on our shoulders anymore. Social media has crippled away the possibilities of a good love. Today people will not hesitate to ask you on a date through text, sickening. Today people will not hesitate to meet a stranger they met online, terrifying. Today people will text all day long, draining all possibility of real in person conversation, tragic. Tomorrow people will miss the experience. People will miss the real connections. We are missing the surroundings of real interactions. I do not mean nobody has found love online. I do not preach that it is bad to text your loved one. I preach that we have missed the era of true connections and real stories. We look at things as if it is impossible “just from the movies”. This is not the case, we can still find real connections with a little patience. Maybe we could even learn to analyze what we expect from conversations.

The “standard” for how someone should talk to you, approach you, or treat you is irrelevant. If someone comes into your life and the rules between you and them align nothing else matters. Disregard the stress if they will text you back. Do not worry about location services being in tact. Do not sit and ponder over if you should wait five minutes to reply. These silly little games we play with one another have gotten nobody anywhere. The true connections will happen when you are genuinely you. Fate is by our side forever so be by it too. Live and grow into your best version awaiting the one meant for you. He probably is not on bumble, she is probably not on tinder, it's very rare that your love is dming you to “link up”. Try stepping away from the screen and focus on real things. Real people deserve your time , you know the ones you can actually see. The farther we go down this road the scarier it becomes. Everything was so much easier before we all had a phone. Relationships through social media may have worked for a few. Doesn’t mean it will work for you. Yes, that's okay. We live where we are not through a device so let's set it down and listen , explore, i promise that will suffice. I do not understand love anymore.